Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Belly Up

Yup, our kids.  Luckily the bartender was a good sport.  That game kept the boys busy forever!

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Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Potty Training: Day #2

One success from Jossie and we think that it was just luck.  Mom tried the underwear bit rather than naked bottom half.  Apparently it didn’t keep them from peeing on the floor.  In other news, Bennett took a large dump in the froggy potty when no one was looking.  If he wasn’t already trained to use the toilet I am sure we would all done the potty dance and offered him a fruit snack.

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The training concluded before dinner tonight.  Maybe it will start to click on Day 3.  Wondering if any of my family is getting worried yet about how much of this training will roll into Thanksgiving.  If pants are required for eating at the table Jocelyn and Aaliyah might have some issues with that.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Potty Training Twin Girls: Day #1

For some reason God blessed me with a mother that has sympathy for her daughter with multiple multiples.  She came back for round two of potty training with the girls.  I am surprised that the boys didn’t scare her away.  I predict that all the times the girls make me appreciate the ease of the boys, the girls will put the boys training to shame.

Today was day #1.  I got out of the majority of this day.  This whole going back to work thing really worked in my favor for potty training. 

I checked in early AM with mom and she reported 1 pee on the floor and Aaliyah holding tight.  Later AM, I called back for report and mid conversation mom yelled AHHOHHHEWWW and the phone fell on the floor.  I concluded that Aaliyah just had her first pee of the day.  At this point no successes so I preceded to call Circle Sage Healing for a massage appointment for mom.  When I got home in the afternoon, the laundry room was full of pee blankets and there was a huge wet spot on the couch.  I’m not telling anyone what couch it was so you don’t think twice when you sit down at my house.  Mom said there was another accident upstairs and as she was cleaning up Jossie, Aaliyah decided to go #2.  Luckily for mom the smashed brown clump on the floor was a piece of bread from their play food rather than stepped in poop.  In the evening, I cleaned up pee that happened mid dinner, Jocelyn peed on the towel right before she stepped in the bath tub, and Aaliyah made pee tracks through the kitchen as she reported she had a poopy in her underwear.  I put pull ups on.

This time I am not nearly as optimistic.  I didn’t plan on there being any success the first day because I was frustrated after the first day with the boys.  I am telling you, potty training is one of the harder tasks so far and I have had help.

Better luck tomorrow.  

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Ladies

They love hanging out together!

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Where did fall go, or maybe when is winter coming?

Saturday night and I am blogging.  The boys are hovered over an early Christmas present, LeapPad 2, while the girls watch da da da da Dora.  We have succumb to the assistance of technology babysitters with just 6:49pm on the clock.  These kids are machines.

Since it doesn’t feel like winter yet I won’t feel so bad posting these pictures just now.  This fall, we did throw the kids into the leaves and pretend like the day was beautiful and everything went swimmingly.  This day I went with Brian (brother in law with 4 kids) to the local art center for a little Halloween fun (yes I am behind).  Moment captured…

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What I didn’t tell you is that I didn’t dress them for the weather.  Brian and I excited the tour early because our children were bored and didn’t understand how to stay in a line.  On the way down a steep hill Selah flipped out of her stroller because we were to busy making sure Aaliyah and Jocelyn didn’t fall on their face.  The best moment was when we got popcorn and they sat still.  It was a successful trip.

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Nanny Samm

A new semester, a new Nanny! 

Nanny Samm!

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This little cupcake will be watching PairSquared 3 days a week until she returns to school next semester.  She is a student at Northwestern College studying biblical studies.  This girl will do great things for sure.  Not only can she french braid the girls hair, she makes killer banana bread.  She has even volunteered to keep the kids in KPT on Mondays and do the drop off and pick up.  Pray that she survives our horrible van doors annoying habit to not close, Ethan’s request to have his backpack completely on his back for the walk from the front door to the car in the driveway, the girls insistence to hold their lunch bags so that they can tear into their sandwiches on the way to the church, and Bennett’s tantrum at the girl’s classroom because he insists he is not a Brown Bear, but a Red Rabbit. 

Hope you got your sleep Samm!

Career and Family: Can’t a girl have it both?

I started this post last week and now am finishing it.  No easier way to say it then to just get it out… 

I’m going went back to work. 

A few of you have had some insight to this decision, however, this might be news to a few of you.  About 6 weeks ago I received an offer that I seriously had to consider.  The offer was to assist in leading the launch of a new “observership” program.  My new position as the Community Career Exploration Liaison will be helping the Volunteer Services department create a system wide program and process for students (HS and college) to enter inside the hospital walls to engage in career exploration opportunities and observation.   I accepted such fitting challenge and actually started last Friday.  Exactly 14 months from my last full time day at Children’s.  I will be working with the outstanding Volunteer Services team under the magnificent direction of Sandy B.  It is a double bonus!!

The easier part of the post is writing what I decided the more difficult task is to write the WHY.  I did ask for some input from key players in my life; those that are invested in my day to day survival.  I appreciated how you (EP, JC, KL, LW) challenged me, presented decisions that I would have to face, your honesty, and the support.  I know this decision is not for everyone.  I happen to have several good friends that stay at home and rock it, but I admit that I am not rockin’ it like I thought I would.  I am not excited about the idea of making home made play-doh or allowing my kids to finger paint with pudding on my kitchen table(heart you Iz).  I know you want to tell me that the numbers are against me, my kids are the hardest ages right now, and it will get easier, but I really am aware.  I know that doing stay at home mommy things are just not realistic for me.  I can’t get a zoo membership because I fear that Jocelyn will scale the wall and jump into the cage.  I can’t take all 4 of my kids swimming because I fear that Aaliyah will get past the zero entry pool in attempt to go down the water slide.  I can’t go shopping because all 4 of my kids, a shopping cart, and myself don’t fit into the handicap stall when I have to go to the bathroom.  Not to mention the annoying event of the girls unlocking the stall door in mid stream.   The idea of putting on 8 socks, 8 shoes, 4 jackets, 4 hats, gathering a bag with extra change of clothes, snacks, and sippy cups to go the gym to sweat uncomfortably is not really my idea of a good time.  Staying together for a walk is a joke.  Ethan reminds me every morning that he can’t brush his teeth because it is too dangerous, however, running into the street where cars are driving is completely safe?  I have considered becoming part of a mommy group mostly because they offer daycare options for your kids when you attend events/meetings.  No offense but if someone is watching my kids the last thing I want to do is get into deep conversation about how my kids won’t eat their vegetables or keep their clothes on.  I want silence and a TV that doesn’t play Dora. 

This last portion of the entry might be more for my reflection and a reminder for years down the road. I just get worried that after all the time I took to decide that I wanted to stay home more with the kids I might regret 14 months later deciding to return back to work. So I wrote myself a letter just in case I forget why I made the decision I can remind myself.

November 4, 2012

Dear HOT PairSquared Mom, (it is my letter so I get to pick the salutation)

Right now you might be wondering why you cut your time at home short with your PairSquared Posse.  First it was not without deep thinking and consideration that you decided to split your career and family chips into 2 piles.  I am here to remind you why this was what you (and your family) needed.  Your decision was based upon 3 primary factors.

1.  Opportunity – when opportunity presents itself you have to listen.  This position is a solid fit with your skill set.  Like dad always says, it is easy to quit a job, but not always easy to find one.  I think he used a similar analogy with you when you were 16…it takes years to build a reputation and only minutes to ruin it.  Need a remind you why he told you this?!?  Sorry that was a low blow.  You were given the chance to do something innovative and unique.  Seize it and rise to the challenge.

2. Balance – do you really think you were kidding anybody by pretending that you were “staying at home” when you constantly filled your time with Children’s on call shifts, new PT jobs, and business ventures?!?  Rather than filling your time with responsibilities that overflow into your mommy job, you can now focus on work at work and focus on family when home.  The day you sit still will continue remain unknown.  Family needs to be a priority and maybe this is the way that you can control the balance.  Move your butt to the middle of the teeter totter.   

3. Sanity – you aren’t the only one that thinks being home with the PairSquared Posse full time is completely insane.  I know you love them, but doesn’t a mom need her own time too?  Yeah, maybe you would like your me time to be at the massage parlor rather than working at a desk but if I were you (and I am) take what you can get.  Rather than spending $90 on 90 minutes of bliss you will be able to enjoy a morning cup of coffee while checking your Groupwise email without being interrupted by, “Mommy, wipe my bottom.” 

Hopefully this letter will lift your spirits one day when you need it.  I am positive that your kids have benefited from this decision.  Some people say that you aren’t putting your family first if you choose a career over staying home.  I think you can proudly say that you were putting your family first.  You made a choice that gives you balance, focus, and experience.  Career and family, you are a girl that had it both.

Keep on keepin’ on,

Me (You)